Losing to Find: Why You Never Truly Lose Anyone

You don’t lose people; you return them as they were never yours.

Is there anything that is truly yours, not even your soul is in your undertaking.

We've got a serious problem in our society. It's this idea that being obsessively attached to other people is normal and healthy. It's not. When you latch onto someone emotionally, you become desperate for their constant presence. And when they are around, you're terrified of them leaving. That's no way to live.

The more intensely attached you are, the worse off you'll be. You're not free - you're a slave to your own needy desires. You've made yourself a plaything of fate, waiting to get knocked down by the inevitable loss. And make no mistake, trying to force people to stay in your life against their will is selfish, plain and simple.

Here's the harsh truth: No person was ever truly yours to begin with. They don't belong to you. You can't possess them or their love. Everything is temporary - people, relationships, even your own identity. Thinking you can permanently own any part of this fleeting existence is pure denial.

That obsessive need to hold on with an iron grip? It's only going to bring you pain and misery. I'm not saying you can't have close bonds or deep caring. But this possessive attitude, this desperate clinging to what you can never truly grasp? That's asking for trouble.

If you want any semblance of peace, you have to open your tight-clenched fist. Let people come and go as they will, as is the natural way of things. Appreciate them while they're present, but don't fall into the trap of imagining you can freeze anything permanently. That's the path of suffering.

Your life is a brief flame, not an endless reign where you can endlessly accumulate people and experiences. No one is truly yours to keep. So stop with the suffocating attachments already. Let go a bit, for your own sake. It's the only way to stay sane in this life.

So, should you be emotionless in the face of loss?

It is about freeing ourself from the passion; to grieve moderately and with limitation

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